Do This During Courtship/Dating Or Suffer The Pain In Marriage
Dating/courtship is supposed to be the time a man and a woman get to know each other so as to determine if they are compatible enough to be married.
Unfortunately, many people use it for the wrong purposes and suffer the consequences thereafter.
Most of the problems people face in their marriages today were present during courtship/dating. But most people (especially women), will be consumed with the desire to be married or are busy enjoying illicit sex that they fail to notice the problems until they get married and are struck by reality.
Some will come to me and tell me that their husband or wife has changed. And I’ll tell them that he or she didn’t change. Your eyes just opened or you have decided not to live in a fool’s paradise any longer.
A womanizer, a maniser, a dishonest person, a clumsy and lazy person, an unspiritual person , a greedy person in relationship will be the same in marriage.
Some ladies get regularly beaten by boyfriends and they will still go ahead and marry such men because they see marriage as oxygen.
A woman complained to me recently how her husband patronizes prostitutes regularly. I tried to find out how their dating/courtship was. I discovered that this was exactly what the man was doing while they dated. She too was visiting him regularly to enjoy premarital sex. And she caught other ladies in the guy’s apartment many times but she believed he would change.
The guy’s neighbours always told her how other ladies move in immediately she left and left before she visited. That the guy could not sleep a night without a woman. (Abali agba aka).
Don’t be deluded. Marriage doesn’t change people. Some even get worse. If there is any time a man or woman strives to please his wife or husband to be, it’s before marriage. After marriage, many feel they are now licensed to misbehave. And at that point, it’s usually too late to cry.
I’ve said it here time without number. WHAT YOU CAN’T TOLERATE IN MARRIAGE, DO NOT TOLERATE IT IN A RELATIONSHIP.
Use your dating/courtship wisely. If you don’t feel comfortable with certain things and you don’t see any sign that he or she is genuinely ready to change, call it quit. I’m not talking about making promises to change. Some can promise you forever that they will change and they’ll never do.
Ask men and women who made mistakes in their choice of a spouse. They ignored a lot of warnings. Call it instincts, gut feeling or that little voice that keeps telling you when things aren’t right. But they never listened. Today, they are paying for it. Learn and save yourself from the pain.
