If You Don’t Do This, Your Marriage Or Relationships Will Keep Ending.

A research work once showed that if a company keeps hiring and firing staff, 80 times out of 100, the company is the problem and not the staff.

In a similar vein, if a man keeps divorcing and remarrying, chances are that he’s the problem and not the woman.

The same way if a woman keeps moving from one man to another, she may be the problem, and not the man she complains about.

Note that the woman may not be a bad person per se, but may have a weakness(s) that no one has the guts to tell her.

Also, SOME NEVER HEAL COMPLETELY FROM A HURT IN A PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE BEFORE ENTERING ANOTHER.

As a result, what destroyed their former relationships will rear it’s head again and destroy the new one ( READ THAT AGAIN).

The cycle will keep repeating until she will go back to the drawing board to identify the fundamental problem, sometimes through seeking an external assistance or by an honest self-scrutiny.

A beautiful lady who’s also popular on social media once approached me and told me how her relationships always ended within a short time. She was feeling so terrible and was almost becoming suicidal especially after the last one that she had hoped so much will lead to marriage ended too. And she is not getting younger.

Mind you, she is beautiful and popular on Facebook with a lot of followers that if she posts that Jesus Christ is a Fulani man, you’ll see her Facebook followers hailing her–“MoMA you’re right”, “momma you too much”, some will even tell her that they know where Joseph and Mary lived in Daura.

I assured her that I would observe her and tell what could be wrong. After interviewing her about her previous relationships and how they ended, I observed her carefully and within a short time, I told her what could be killing her relationships. I told her a lot of things she did, including some of her activities on Facebook that can easily put off a lot of Nigerian men. Some of these men may never tell her. Some even join in HAILING HER TO HER DOOM.

I observed a serious anger problem, impatience, arrogance, carelessness, intolerance, a subtle admission of promiscuity (in the name of wokeness) and so forth. Her exaggerated sense of self was top-notch. It took me time to work on her. I tasted her anger, arrogance, vituperation and lack of appreciation. But I was patient and vowed not to give up on her. I saw her as someone that needs help.

Long story short, she’s been in a new (post rehabilitation) relationship that will likely lead to marriage now. They’ve been getting on well far more than what she has ever experienced in the past. This too has also lasted longer than her previous relationships.

Dear wonderful people, if you are a man, and you keep having issues with women, it’s time to sit down and ask questions. Sincerely seek to know if you are the problem instead of just complaining about women.

If you are a woman and men keep complaining about you or your relationships keep collapsing, it’s time to seek an honest solution.

What I’m saying here requires honesty and HUMILITY. But in the end you’ll be happy you did.

Ask people who are close to you to honestly assess you and tell you the truth about your behaviour they find unpleasant. Be humble enough to accept the correction. I’M ALSO WILLING TO HELP. I RESPECT YOUR PRIVACY.

What you don’t want to hear is what you often need most.

GOOD LUCK.